By definition, the butterfly effect is the idea that small things can have non-linear impacts on a complex system. The concept is imagined with a butterfly flapping its wings and causing a typhoon.

Where the hell am I going with this? I literally had the idea in my head and being very on brand for me - I started thinking about so many other things that my mind went all over the place and I lost the point. It took me a couple hours legit to get back here … LOVE, sex and desire. Why does falling in love give you the butterflies? Is it okay to just let go and allow the butterflies to cause a typhoon?

I know … love is something you “feel”. You know it when it’s there even though you can't see it. You can’t describe it, but you know it when it happens right? I think that’s essentially how it works. I’m no expert but I think I have a good enough grasp of the concept. I’ve had friends who have gone on dates and come back disappointed like “I just didn’t feel anything”, its a case where thought of seeing the person again makes your heart skip a beat and you feel so nervous that you can’t eat.

I’m not saying this phenomenon is not true or that you should stay far from it, but using your brain, in addition to your heart, leads to better decisions. That logically that makes sense when you think about it right? I read an article that spoke to the fact that these swoony sensations (butterflies in the stomach) we recognize as signs that we’re truly into someone are symptoms of sexual passion — not of undying devotion.

What if I went out of my way to tell you that following your heart is the second leading cause of cheating. It’s a little like this, while the mind can take into account all the good and all the bad and lead you to the right long-term decisions, your the heart (along with a few shots of Casamigos and your loins) is the one leading you to decisions like going home with all that sexiness while bae is out of town. Do you actively separate the difference in voices of your mind and that of your heart?

The truth is, the temporary sensation you get is a chemical reaction. There are hormones and pheromones to make our brains feel a certain way. It’s a biological survival instinct. People have to mate. Mating is a one-time action that happens and may produces babies. This feeling makes sure humans mate. It’s evolution must … not a way to find a future spouse (I would think) so you basically have to add more substance to that feeling to make more complicated decisions that will make sense for a productive future. You agree?