To Shave or Not?

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Photo by Supply on Unsplash

So, you’ve decided to give manscaping a try? Good for you! There are several popular techniques to get rid of excess body hair on a men today. Apart from the traditional razor blades and trimmers, a lot of men resort to more aggressive techniques such as electrolysis, laser treatment and bro-zilian waxes…etc.

Nowadays, more men are picking up the razor to shave their body hair and for good reasons too. Some include:

  • Better personal hygiene

  • To lessen or eradicate body odour

  • To be more aesthetically pleasing to the eyes

  • To improve athletic performance

Typically in the Sport and Fitness worlds, it is more common for male body hair to be kept in check as it can improve performance and show off hard earned muscle definition. So it total, how much body hair do men have? Well, recent studies have shown that over half of young men are deciding to remove body hair - possibly attributed to reality TV and media promoting smooth muscular physiques as desirable. Although male body hair removal is nothing new, evidence suggests even Ancient Greeks, Romans and Egyptians were also fans of manscaping.

Let’s get a few facts out of the way first.

Does shaving body hair protect against body odour?

The simple answer is yes, shaving body hair can help reduce body odour! Underarm hair is a wonderful breeding ground for bacteria, which thrive under the protective cover of the body hair, boosting the smell of perspiration as a result. But it isn't the sweat itself that pongs. The bacteria on your skin is actually what breaks down in the sweat, which creates the unpleasant smell. The bottom line is this: shaving armpits and body hair leads to less bacteria and a more pleasant smell.

What is the purpose of male body hair anyway?

Back in the Stone Age when men were hunter-gatherers, long before the days of body shaving, body hair had a range of different purposes: from keeping warm to proof of sexual maturity. Today, our perception has changed in this regard, and although body hair may help to regulate body temperature during sport by catching sweat and helping it to evaporate, the overall differences are minimal. Therefore, there's no need to worry about body shaving to remove the fuzz, if that's your preference. But not all body hair is useless - eyelashes and eyebrows still play a vital role, and nose and ear hair can be trimmed but not removed.

PERSONA || Wellness Supplements

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Photo by Marquise Kamanke on Unsplash

There have been many times throughout my life when I’ve tried to start taking vitamins, but it rarely sticks. I am turning 30 though and with that, the body doesn’t have as much bounce-back as it did even a few months ago. On top of that, being an adult brings all sorts of wonderful stressors and changes in skin and hair.

I’m sure you’ve heard about the importance of supplementing your vitamin intake but whilst that is important off the bat, it is important to measure your lifestyle and the way you eat to see exactly what your body needs more of.

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Persona is a vitamin subscription that provides a 28-day supply of vitamins and supplements that are recommended for your unique needs. Members get access to expert nutritionists and an app with tools to help support their new regimen. Persona currently offers 80 different vitamins and supplements (including vegan options).

I like Persona because their nutritionists help me assess my supplement needs, instead of me blindly guessing what I should take on my own. Their custom packs help me feel confident that I’m getting the right doses, of the right supplements, at the right time. Plus, I can just toss the packs in my bag instead of fishing around for bottles or taking the time to make my own packs. The cost of the subscription varies depending on what is in your packs but you can get 50% off your first month! No coupon needed - just use this link.

Let me just quickly run through the pros and cons that I have realized so far from this service so you can know.

PROS

1.   There is an easy online assessment that you can use to personalize your new regimen. It’s easy but exhaustive in a good way. It goes through your health and wellness, family health, and wellness history then asks you what is important to you (what you would like to see improved). After you’ve finished the questionnaire, they respond with their suggestions and allow you to add and take away whatever you want which I find to be really helpful.

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2.   Pre-packaged, nicely designed sachets to grab-and-go.

3.   Designed with the help of licensed and experienced nutritionists and wellness experts.

4.   Access to an easy-to-use app that allows you to speak with nutritionists who can analyze current medications in their database of over 2,000 prescription medications and check for drug-nutrient interactions. and customize upcoming orders.

5.   An included brochure, explaining the benefits of each supplement included, and other suggestions in addition to precautions.

6.   The option to add and remove vitamins as you go month to month.

CONS

1.   More costly than the usual, readily available drugstore brand vitamins.

IS IT WORTH IT?

It is a simple fool-proof pack of vitamins to take. If you don’t mind paying a little more to feel confident in your vitamin regimen and like the ease of portioned packs, then it is by all means worth it.

Persona took the guesswork out of which supplements I should take to address my body’s changing needs. I love that they give me easy access to real nutritionists, who can answer my specific questions. In addition to that, having everything I need, conveniently prepackaged saves time and prevents me from spacing on how many of each supplement I need to take.

I have been taking the vitamins for three weeks now and I have seen vast improvements, especially as it relates to the quality of my sleep and sleeping patterns (which I love), so YES! It’s worth it and I would definitely recommend it.

Faith Where?

I scrolled through Twitter earlier and I was greeted by a lot of responses to like faith and religion, this conversation came from someone asking, ‘What does ‘Faith’ mean to you?’

Faith literally means believing in someone or some idea without any logical proof or rationale. The belief should be unshakable and strong to be classified as Faith. If it is swaying with mood, then it’s just another thought in your thought producing factory – ‘brain’.

Before I continue I have to admit that I grew up in church, I had bad experiences dealing with people within the church community because of varying reasons but I did not have traumatic experiences thankfully unlike a lot of my peers. Those acts, are usually illegal, and outright wrong and nasty, I condemn then and I hope that those will be unearth and dealt with. I am also not blind that a lot people hide their trauma behind religion and there is a lot of hypocrisy and unrealistic expectations.

My issue though comes from people attacking religion and not attacking the people who hide behind religion. I wouldn’t call myself a Christian as I don’t know if I believe some things that the organized religion of Christianity believe but I do believe in God. People may have the assumption that because you believe in God that means you agree with all the wrongs that Christians have done in the past and the horrible ones existing today. To me it is much more complicated than that, I compare it to that of family (since Christians is known as the family of God) – when you are a part of a family, there are good family members, there are bad family members, there are horrible ideologies and viewpoints within family and there are really progressive views. There is no ‘organized’ structure that is fool proof and completely right in my eyes – usually the best results are had when it is put together by the person experiencing it first-hand, no one size fits all. Knowing for yourself what you believe and ascribe to is essential for giving your life direction even if it doesn’t include a religious affiliation.  

Faith to me means the ability to keep going irrespective of the obstacles. Yes, religions have given it a different meaning but if you think deeper, you would realise it’s probably pretty much all the same.

You know you are going to be alive the next moment/second. Every breath you inhale and exhale, is an assurity that you are alive, but there are people who don't get to have the next breath, they die.

We, who were born and are destined to die live on faith (knowingly or unknowingly), whether you like it or not is what keeps us going – you literally make plans for a future you are not promised. The sad fact is that when one hears the word faith, it is tied to religion. It basically means to not give up, which I had mentioned earlier in the answer.

Faith means that in my mind, everything is going to be okay in the end. That doesn’t EVER mean that things always happen when or the way we want them to but the fact that you will be okay with what happens. That you WILL make it through. Life is hard and not fair and it’s like that for a reason. If it was easy then we wouldn’t be able to learn and grow into better people. Having faith gets you through your trials and after the trial you choose how you learn from it. You choose for it to make you better or bitter.

Up, You Might Race, Accomplish What You Will!

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There is no future for a people who deny their past. My Foreparents, My Grandparents, My Mother, My Father did not suffer and die to give me an education to slight, oppress or discourage my people. Whatsoever education I acquired out of their sacrifice of over 300 years, I shall use for the salvation of the 400 million Black people of the world. And the DAY when I forsake my people; may GOD Almighty say, “there shall be no more life for you.
— Excerpt from “Look for me in the Worldwind”

Today, we honour the memory and pay tribute to the life and work of Jamaica’s first national hero, the Rt. Excellent Marcus Mosiah Garvey, on the 133rd anniversary of his birth.

Marcus Garvey preached prosperity, recognizing that social and economic advancement were key to improving the conditions of black people. He was of the view that upward mobility would only come through our own efforts which is one of the reasons he is my favourite national hero. His message transcended his own country of Jamaica and reached many black people around the globe.

I decided to compile a few lessons I have learnt from Garvey to share with you:

"Any leadership that teaches you to depend on another race is a leadership that will enslave you" 

We can see the implications of white supremacy today where is there is a belief that white people are superior to those of other race and therefore should be dominant over them. White supremacy has roots in what was deemed as “scientific racism” and was a big reason behind the African Slave Trade. Garvey was determined to dismantle white supremacy and achieve black equality through separation, his rationale was that any race that felt the need to make you dependent on them was in and of itself an extension of slavery without using that term. We have come a far way but there are still strong remnants of it today.

“A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.”

Garvey’s view was to read history incessantly until you master it. This means your own national history, the history of the world, social history, industrial history, and the history of the different sciences; but primarily, the history of man. If you do not know what went on before you came here and what is happening at the time you live, but away from you, you will not know the world and will be ignorant of the world and mankind.

“The ends you serve that are selfish will take you no further than yourself but the ends you serve that are for all, in common, will take you into eternity.”

At the end of the day, you do not live in isolation. Whether you have children or not, you will die on day and leave this Earth. The objective is to always try to leave it so that the generations after you will benefit. As black people, we have to fight to the good fight to ensure our kids and their kids feel equal and a part because they deserve it. Look at the generations before us, would we be enjoying the things we do if they thought selfishly? It’s even the small things too that count. 

Garvey is regarded as the leader of the largest organized mass movement in black history. He was an inspirational figure who helped break the psychological liberation from the bondage of racial inferiority.

Though he is long gone, Garvey’s memory and influence remain. Hopefully, the above quotes have inspired you to have confidence in yourself. 

M. A. N

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Photo by whoislimos on Unsplash

Don’t fight me, just hear me out, no other sequence of just three letters is equally powerful. Add the suffix “ly” and you’ve just created a storm that either becomes the wind beneath a young man’s wings or a torrent that suffocates him. Add the prefix “wo” and we could be entering dangerous territory depending on the tone, usage, and subject. But let’s forget all that and focus on the root word for a bit because there’s a lot hidden beneath it that most people don’t know about. Let’s see what “M. A. N” is truly capable of.

Here’s something we all know; words define us. Here’s something we all don’t; words determine everything we experience. 

Imagine that the course of your entire life, whether you failed or succeeded, is determined by these same words. What you're called. What you're labeled as. What definitions you need to align yourself to. What descriptions people expect from you.

These words, even though you’re often not the one choosing them, end up defining you and your life. This is how “M. A. N” comes into play.

We’re either very lucky or very unlucky to be alive during a period where everything conservative and traditional is being upended, slowly but surely. Concepts such as masculinity and gender roles have always been solidified. Determined. Stubborn. Now, liberal movements are redefining them. Reshaping them. Reshaping the world we live in.

We hope everyone will catch up, but we might never live to see it.

And that’s okay. Because as a man growing up in Jamaica, living day-to-day by the rigorous definitions of what a man is, your life can quickly become the hell you pray to escape.

A man is meant to provide, so you go out and find work that might not suit you, but suits the food that keeps your family alive. But getting an honest bread is hard. Negative peer pressure is as guaranteed as police corruption and those same uniforms who’re meant to help, end up doing harm. So where do you go when you’re unqualified for scrappy job openings? You turn to the streets.

Either homeless, dead, or weaponized.

If you don’t end up suffering, you end up dead. And if you’re not dead, you’re something far worse. Trapped in a life of crime. The perfect target for the system that put you there. In and out as they designed it.

And then they say “Why didn’t you seek help?”, “Why didn’t you talk about your problems?”

The answer to that is clear and simple. As a man living in Jamaica, you’re taught not to talk about your problems. You should just bear the burden on your own and figure it out. You’re not taught to talk about how you’re feeling. You should either exist in a state of stoic expression or fits of rage. In Jamaica, rejecting bad influence is the fastest way to be considered a nerd, a queer, or simply not a man.

The word man only has three letters but contains a world of expectations, pains, and problems. We often don’t get to be who we truly want to be. We often don’t get judged based on who we truly are. We just get segmented into caricatures and warped concepts. Letter by letter. First “M” then “A”, then “N”.

Things Not To Say To A Black Man

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Instagram Photo by @ohmakeda

I was on Instagram scrolling and I stumbled on Avery Francis’ (@averyfrancis) post about the microaggressions Black men face daily. These things not only dehumanize us but it stands desensitize the nature of Black men by allow non-Black people to feel more privileged by the nature of our Blackness hidden under the blanket of “meaning well”.

Here is her post, tell me what you think:

“I only date black men”

Racial fetishism is sexually fetishizing a person or culture belonging to a specific race or ethnic group. For Black men, it shows up in everyday situations like work, on social media and even on dating apps. Racial fetishization isn’t a compliment. Comments like this aren’t out of genuine interest or admiration for a person – they come from exclusively being interested in someone based on their race. When you fixate on someone’s skin colour, Black men and POC like, you’re othering us in sexual way. Joking that you have a jungle fever or that you love the taste of chocolate is so gross. Racial fetishization is a thing. Stop.

“I’m darker than you”

It’s summer now so I know some of the Karens have already been saying this. Does your fake tan come with 400 years of systematic oppression, daily microaggressions, bias at work and racial inequalities too? Yah, I didn’t think so. “I’m darker than you” or “I’m Blacker than you are” is a loaded comment, so I’ll just leave that right there. Unless you live in Black skin 365 days a year, we really don’t want to hear this from you.

“You must have a big dick”

So, apparently this is a thing. It is really gross. Comments like this are not only really invasive they are dehumanizing. Like any other race, culture or subculture, Black men are painted in a certain light sexually by society. There’s enough history, media and porn to illustrate and explain what these stereotypes are. Reducing anyone to the size of their genitalia is really disgusting. Also, comments like this are straight up harassment and need to stop.

“You aren’t Black-Black”

What kinds of Black guys are you referring to when you say this? The type of Black men who are negatively and inaccurately reflected through carefully curated stereotypes? Does this mean that the Black man you are saying this to is a safe or acceptable Black man? Or, is their Blackness less threatening to you? Pushing your stereotype of how a Black person speaks, acts, behaves and exists is harmful because you generalize an entire race. Appropriating Black culture will never equate to the real lived experiences of a person existing in a Black boy, Period. I don’t care how woke you think you are.

“You are so aggressive”

For years Black men have been negatively depicted as angry, confrontational or aggressive in the media and pop culture. After decades of careful curating of negative stereotypes of Black men. If a Black man is assertive, passionate or spirited, his behavior is often received in a negative way. He is perceived as a threat, dangerous or scary. This type of bias often causes Black men to be misunderstood, brutalized and attacked. Black men aren’t aggressive, your views about them are.

“I don’t see colour”

This seems innocent enough, but it is really a problematic thing to say. You may mean well, but this is a harmful thing to say to a black man, woman or any person of colour. If you are looking to become a better ally acknowledging race or racial differences is a great place to start. Don’t dismiss a Black person’s lived experience because of you own discomfort with acknowledging and talking about racial differences.

“You sound white”

Here’s the thing there is no universal tone or way of speaking for Black people and pushing your own bias, stereotypes, and narrow assumptions that you have about how black people sound can be harmful. Feeling a sense of belonging is already tricky for Black folks. Minimizing us to how you think we should look; act or sound ignores a whole part of identity and humanity. What does ‘white’ or ‘black’ sound like anyway? Honestly, I’ve never said “you don’t sound white” to a white person when we’ve first met.

“You are so articulate”

When you say this to a Black man, you are implying that you are shocked that he is eloquent and well spoken. Comments like this speak to the educational inequities that exist between Black and non-Black communities. It suggests that Black men are typically not articulate, so it comes as a surprise to you. Nothing about this comment is okay. If you are surprised when we are articulate, you have some work to do. Id suggest start with checking your own bias.

“You don’t sound black”

This comment highlights the subtle nuances of racism depicted in media and pop culture that do not accurately illustrate how we all speak. If a Black man speaks with elocution and diction, they are often faced with this critique. “You don’t sound Black” is harmful because it feeds in to the negative stereotypes that tend to oppress Black men at work and beyond. Not all Black people sound the same.

Righting My Wrongs

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Photo by Ben Shan on Unsplash

Let’s be real. No-one likes to admit they’re wrong. The mountains crumble, the sky caves in, and the earth opens up to swallow your shame. A wise man once said, “It’s easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a man to admit he’s wrong.” Of course, that’s not a saying but it should be. Feel free to quote me cuz that was mad deep, not entirely original but deep, don’t judge me.

It’s easy for us to make a mistake and run with it, stick by it, and fall in love with it - Unfortunately I have done this a fuck load of times. But the one thing we rarely ever do is own up to it. And that’s a cheap formula for destroying relationships, friendships, and futures. If society is built on honesty and justice, well I’m sure we want it to be, then this is where it begins to disintegrate.

When I was in the eighth grade (bare with me, even though this was a million years ago), I witnessed this firsthand and it’s crazy how the simplest things can snowball. Really crazy! Watch me..

It related to to of my classmates, one of them was “bright”, always shows up for class, always does his work, and always gets great grades, let’s call him Rupert. The other was just an average boy. Not too exceptional but certainly one of those you should look out for. Now our English teacher was really strict - Mr. Haye, I can never forget that man. You couldn’t miss a single deadline or you’d be next doom of the island, listen he got really creative with that! I think he enjoyed it waaayyyy too much.

At the end if eight grade in Literature class there’s this final essay on one of the books we had to turn in. I don’t even remember the name, you could throw any book title at me and I’m sure it would sound right, bleh, not that deep. Anyway, Brandon forgot his essay but “found” one on the classroom, quickly rewrote it, slapped his name on it, and handed it in for a fat A+. Rupert on the other hand panicked when he couldn’t find the essay, tried to do a quick rewrite from memory, and ended up getting a C. What made it worse was that after trying to explain, the teacher publicly embarrassed him for not taking school seriously.

Rupert broke at that moment.

What followed was a string of absences and lackluster academic performance. He went from a budding scholar to a budding bum and it broke Brandon’s heart to watch. So he finally fessed up to Rupert and their teacher and got their grades switched around. Now, my name’s not Brandon but I was that guy. I did something wrong and sat on it for a while before making it right. In that short time, I watched someone spiral into a shell of himself. Looking back it at it now, I wonder how much worse it could have been if I hadn’t made it right.

And I realized a lot of people wonder the very opposite.

They reminisce about things they have done and wonder how better things would be if they had right the wrongs they did to others. Most of them never get to find out.

Besides saving someone’s academic pursuits, righting your wrongs helps in many ways. It can mend strained relationships, promote personal healing, and relieve you of heavy baggage. You’re not just improving your own life, you’re bettering the lives of others as well.

Whether you’re partners, family, friends, or strangers, confessing your misdeeds and redeeming yourself is the kinder side of humanity that we all need. So let the mountains crumble, watch the sky cave in, and allow the earth to swallow you whole. At the end of it all, the world will be a better place.

Be the camel that threads the needle. Okurr? Lol.

Feature: Healthline’s Best Blogs 2020

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We are grateful and honoured to be featured as one Healthline.com’s best blogs of 2020. Healthline’s mandate is geared at the holistic you. How you feel affects every single day of your life, which is why you work so hard to get well and stay well. No matter your journey, we’re here to support, guide, and inspire you. With that being said they featured blogs in this article who are geared exclusively to men and give clear information, practical tips, and advice that encourages readers to become their own health advocates, these are the top resources to inform and inspire.

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We are honoured to be featured and will continue to putting in the work to educate and inspire men.

Check out the rest of the article here.

Stay blessed and protect your melanin!

Unmanly or Ungodly?

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Anything I do is manly, because I'm a man and I'm doing it. Simply put!

If we have advanced so much as it relates to gender roles and conformity, I can’t imagine ever imagine how it was 10, 20 or even 30 years ago. Today, everything we seem to do is scrutinised by this man card and it has to stay in tact and unsoiled.

Crying over an emotional situation. Man card punched.
Having tea with my little cousin. Man card punched.
Daddy dance time with the kids. Man card punched.
A "spa day" with a straight razor shave, mani/pedi and towel treatment. Man card punched.
Wearing purple or pink, (the colors of supposed royalty and pussy!). Man card punched.
Having my prostate stimulated. Man card punched.

If you're not insecure, you don't miss out on experiences because of labels!

Don't you dare "not try something" because you're afraid of seeming unmanly. Worrying about how "manly" you appear to the world is actually the least manly thing you can do if we are being frank. Pretty much everything and anything stigmatized as "gay" or "unmanly" is probably going to improve your life (yup, read that again and think about), or at the very least is worth trying.

Investing in a better grooming routine, trying 'feminine' hobbies like dancing, thinking about and considering your feelings, being more open to giving and receiving comfort and affection, being unashamed of liking genuinely GOOD shit like fruity cocktails and bright colours, prostate orgasms - really, toxic masculinity has stripped men of so much and forced a lot of them to live scrunched up, repressed little lives. Learning to let go of that will really help open up your world so much.

I was reading on Twitter the other day a girl saying that if she goes on a date with a guy and he orders a “girly” drink then he’s no longer her date, he’s now one of her girls.

COCKtails have gender now?! Well clearly!

There is sadly a sigma around cocktails being "unmanly" because some guys think all cocktails are sweet and gross-tasting. There are plenty of non-sugary cocktails out there strong enough to turn you the fuck over when I think about it, I don't really like sugary drinks either but love certain cocktails and what does it matter what I consume? How does that affect my manliness or lack thereof?

Issues such as careers and occupations, black men especially suffer because social workers and therapists are mostly female, but at the same time young boys need good male role models, and there should be a demand for male social workers since there are so few of them. So be a God damn social worker if that’s where your heat leads you, make that difference. Look around you, we need it.

Sitting down to pee! Why is this a feminine thing to do again? In the privacy of my own home? Middle of the night? Sit down and keep sleepin', no shame in the game. Don't want to put your book down? No problem, sit and read. To be clear, if I'm not at home I'm standing which is a hygiene issue which we will explore at another time.

The point of all of this is that we are robbing ourselves with this deep misogynistic way of thinking and it is causing issues even within the black community. Closing issues such as wage gap and eradicating the killing of our women begins with throwing away the gender roles and the taught that women or women-likened roles are inferior to those attributed to men. Look into yourself and do exactly what you want to do to better yourself and society, stop labeling shit as feminine because that’s what you were told by your Daddy or your uncle.

No beuno hermano! Let’s do better!

Show Me The Money!

There are MANNNYYYYY layers to dating someone or multiple people and very often it starts at what exactly you define as dating. In this context we will refer to dating one person with the sole purpose of entering into a monogamous relationship for the long haul. Cool? Cool. As you embark on that, the more time flies by, the more different things begin to matter more. These things aren’t usually things that you can see. They’re really ideas, attitudes, and philosophies that you look for a potential prospect to have.

A major issue that usually comes up is that of finance. To me, if it doesn’t come up as a discussion pretty early when dating in your 20s or early 30s at least (about a year or so into the relationship) then I don’t know if that is particularly a good thing depending heavily on who you are dating.

At an age like 29, finances matter. When you date someone you look to see how someone manages their money and it gives a clear indication of what kind of person that is. It says a lot about someone who can live within their means. Generally it is easier at this age to not live within your means and not think of the implications it will have later on in life such as like a crazy debt burden especially when you plan or already have a family and kids. The thing is that you can create debt of expenditure for things that matter (like an education or medical and living expenses) versus frivolous expenses that could be left alone. Having poor practices as it pertains to managing expenses and “fun” money is not something to be proud of.

I’m well aware that many guys aren’t good with their money. I’ve heard more than enough date horror stories. I think a word we all need to take heed to in life is “no”, say no sometimes. We don’t always have it. As a matter of fact if I say no to attend an event of some sort, there’s an 80% chance that it’s because I’m budgeting.

We live in this connected world where so many events are happening, and you’ve just got to be there! Damn it, it’s going to be a MOVIE! Well that sure is something to consider isn’t it? But there’s always a bigger picture. Saying no sometimes in the name of saving some bread is okay. Saying no means saying yes to a little sacrifice.

“If you ain’t got no money, stay your broke ass home!”

Be the symbol of security and stability. Being decent with your finances is a huge indicator of how secure and stable you can be. When the person you are dating is out with you, they should get that vibe and of course there should be a level of reciprocity but you should always be confident enough even if it is to have that uncomfortable conversation first and ensure you are on the same page.

If ll you can afford is pasta from Domino’s and Netflix on a first date then do that. Dating is sexy when it’s responsible.

How you manage money is very indicative of how responsible you are. When you have a little bit of money to fool with dating can be fun. You have some more options. You can be a bit more spontaneous with the activities. There’s no worry hanging over your heads as to if you all can do something. It’ll only be a question of when. Learn to say no sometimes. In the long run you’ll be happier. You’ll probably draw better prospects to you as well. You see when your shit is together, you truly won’t accept someone who still doesn’t have a clue. Being responsible is sexy!

These are my words and I make no apologies.

Peace!

Book Review: A Plea To Our Sons

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Highly Inspirational, Life-Changing!

I had the opportunity to read Alice Taylor’s new book A Plea to Our Sons, from a Mother who CaresThis book offers advice and pep talks from Alice and from a variety of Black men on how young black men can find their way in an often confusing and hostile world with self-respect and wisdom. This would be a great gift idea to mature well thinking black men especially in the climate we find ourselves in today.

A Plea to Our Sons, from a Mother who Cares is an inspirational book touching everyone’s soul. It provides prominent remedial guidance and encouragement to young black men. It’s a meditative book which gives the reader a positive insight into the life and finding true and pure enlightenment of making life better and more comfortable to make sense of the world around us. It gives the true meaning of self-discovery, self-healing and genuine love for one's self. Alice F. Taylor is an author who understands the life of young black men. The daily struggles they face, many of which are the stumbling blocks to achieving their dreams as many are the time's men of colour are looked down upon, especially in the African-American society. The book impressively guides the reader through spiritual, mental and physical health life lessons. It inspires the young men to make the right choices to continue with their education and abstain from drugs and violence that are so tragically prevalent in our communities. It delivers lessons to young black-men to truly live according to their beliefs and firmly stand their ground and not to become a mere follower of the crowd. It gives the reader a mindset which allows positivity to ooze out from within, learning to be passionate about developing a personal relationship with the Lord and continually seek him to energize them with His power. What we encounter in life is so significant to our future; hence we need the right tools such as this book to tackle the struggles. The novel is expertly written as it contains real-life stories of black heroes and how they have accomplished their dreams.  At the end of every chapter, there are questions which help evaluate one’s self and hence getting a means of handling and understanding life effectively. This book is purely what everyone needs to make a change in their life—highly recommended!

Alice Taylor is a former registered nurse who worked both as a civilian and served in the United States Army Nurse Corp for 28 years. She retired as a Lieutenant Colonel. During Desert Storm, she served as the Chief Medical Officer of the Troop Medical Clinic at Camp Robinson in North Little Rock, Arkansas. Alice completed her nursing education at St. Vincent's School of Nursing in 1969. She is a co-founder of Zero To Ten Publishing Company with her husband, Johnny L. Taylor, author of "Growing Up in the South: Lessons Learned" and "The 10 Theory: Lessons Learned."Alice and Johnny reside in Little Rock and  are the parents of Dr. Amber R. Smith and Zina Taylor. Alice enjoys listening to Jazz music, cooking, fishing, and gardening. She is a youth leader at Mosaic Central Church in Little Rock, Arkansas.

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